Children Of Neglect
October 7, 2013 Leave a comment
Being a mother is a right but also a responsibility. Some take it for granted, as most every woman can get pregnant if she has a partner to have sex with. But what does it really mean to be a mother? To get pregnant and to bring children to the world doesn’t quite cut it. That is just a biological function, like eating or vowel moving. To get pregnant and give birth doesn’t make you a mother. It is a lot more than that. Being a mother is being responsible for your children, making sure that they are healthy even before they are born, to take all the steps necessary to bring a happy healthy child to this world, to give them a head start on their lives.
Some irresponsible women get pregnant while they are strung out on crack, in many instances from men that don’t care to see their babies as much as they don’t care to ever again see their partners of one night. These women carry on with their destructive behavior, entangling innocent children in to their downward spiral. It is not right that people are negligent on their parenting; and it is not a matter of judging another human being on their habits; it is an issue that concerns us all, that has irreparable consequences for the children that happen to be born to those careless parents. I also would like to point out that it is not just the women that are doing the wrong thing. The fathers that choose to smoke and select their partners among women that do are just as irresponsible. They may not be carrying the babies on their womb, but they do contribute faulty DNA to the fetus, faulty support to the expecting mothers and faulty environment to the children born from that union.
We have a problem with neglected children, and although research out of Pennsylvania confirms that most people whose mothers smoked crack while pregnant don’t have permanent damage from the drug itself, they do have a lot of trouble when they are born, suffering abstinence syndrome, lower birth weight and nervousness that can turn in to ADHD later in life. All this in itself will shortchange them of a good start in life. There is additional damage done because of neglect, and because women that use crack very seldom use just one drug. They often drink and use pills, they overlook their own health, spending the little money they may have on the drugs instead of on a safe place where to sleep and on food to nourish themselves and the children.
These children end up in a less that desirable environment, being exposed to drugs themselves, going hungry and sleeping in strange houses or being homeless. In many cases they are left to fend for themselves for days on end, and when found out, sent in to the system, which provides foster care for them, adding to a very unstable start in life. All these put together is a recipe for disaster. This children don’t really know any better that the life that they have had since they were born, and in many cases love their parents as they are the only parents they know, their providers, if you can call them that. So to all the trauma, carelessness, malnutrition and neglect we add emotional abandonment once they are placed with foster families, which in the best of cases are loving couples that want to give these children a fighting chance. But they are not the parents the children know, they are being robbed of the little security they have been able to accumulate in their short lives.
Neglect and abuse are rampant in the lives of children of drug abusers; they go from a hard birth, with abstinence syndrome and nervousness to a life of neglect and abuse.
The system picks them up and puts them out in to foster families, which are apparently a better option that the precarious situation in which the children live, but nothing close to what the life of a child should be, with provided security, care, love and stability.
We have a terrible problem in our hands, and even though the tear of crack use of the 80s and 90s have subsided in the past few years, we find that there are more births of drunk mothers, which experts say that is even more damaging than crack itself.
To share her testimony, we have invited Ana. Ana has fostered several crack babies, finally adopting three sisters that were born to crack using parents. Please join us to give her a warm welcome on Tuesday October 8th at PM PST http://www.blogtalkradio.com/captivating-chats/2013/10/09/children-of-neglect
To read more on the subject visit Danica’s blog http://nica2013blog.wordpress.com/2013/10/07/forsakened/
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