It Could Happen To You Too

What kind of world are we living in when we allow injustice to hit the basic unit of our society? When we beautiful womenallow our families to be damaged by improper handling of unfairness? What kind of people are we to call ourselves civilized when we don’t take care of our own, let them go in to disgrace and don’t look back?

The IRP6 case is a fine example of this problem. Here we have 6 families destroyed by bureaucratic failure. By human error or negligence, I really don’t know, but the result is that this families are going through trying times and nobody is helping them. Yes, of course, their circle, friends and church members are supportive, but society is not. No major networks are making waves; no bureaucratic entity is supporting them and listening to their crying. And worst of all, most of us think that this is not our problem, we are not involved in this mess, how could we have something to do with it? Mostly, what can we do if bigger and better people are doing nothing about it? That is a terrible problem in society today, even worse than the injustice going on. The fact is that in today’s society we are so individualistic, so egotistic that unless a problem directly affects us, we want nothing to do with it.

Men being convicted unjustly bring a lot of issues to the table, to our society and truly affect each and every one of us. Not only the men get imprisoned, so do their families. Women and children are left behind, still free to come and go, but only relatively. They don’t have the right to be with their loved one, they don’t have the right to keep the team they started when they got married, they don’t have the right to have the financial and emotional support they were counting on when they decided to have a life in common with these men.

The whole family suffers a loss; they all get affected by this judgment in more ways than one. Las week we talked with Tasha Harper about what was happening to her children, how all this is affecting them and how they cope with the loss, and that is hard enough. But children are not the only ones getting affected. The whole family’s  life changes, the relationships, the values, quality time, priorities. The men are loosing the best years of their lives behind bars, and they don’t really know why, they didn’t do anything; their wives are loosing their lives while looking at them suffer, missing them, feeling the pain and the brunt of reality, suffering themselves as much as if they were imprisoned, if not more, as their situation is aggravated by abandonment and loneliness.

The wives go home to an empty living room, to sad and troubled children, to a life of financial hardships. They are the only breadwinners now, with no child support and no widow pension. They are left hanging in limbo, being punished for being, for something that neither them nor their husband’s did, doing a sentence for a crime that is not committed, or even defined. They are paying for injustice and that is all;, they are paying for us all; for all of us turning our backs on their reality, for all society living a life of disinterest to our fellow men and women. It is time that we stand up for one another, that we denounce injustice. We have a voice and we have to use it. We cannot look at this problem and decide that it is nothing to us; it can happen to all of us. No matter what we stand in life right now, it can change really fast.

To tell us about how her life was affected by the changes brought about through terrible events we have invited Tesia Barnes, Married to Kendrick Barnes, another one of the IRP6 wrongly convicted men. Please join us on giving Tesia a very warm welcome, being a quiet woman, Tesia is making a big effort to come and talk to us about her experience, and we truly appreciate her willingness to share with us her testimony.

We will be on air, Tuesday September 24th, at 8 PM PST

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Strong And Trusting

Tuesday night show was a great show. We had Ethel back, but this time she brought her very good friend pinkcameliaEsther Banks. Esther is the wife of one of the IRP6 inmates, and she is a remarkable lady. We had the chance to ask her many questions, as she was very concise on her answers. She didn’t splurge with words, but she transmitted such self-assurance, such personal peace. She talked about her husband and her situation, what she is doing with her life and her family while they are waiting for her husband’s name to be cleared. Although you could hear the pain in her voice, the firmness in her voice spoke of fortitude faith and assurance. She talked with faith and hope for the future, there was not a doubt in her mind that he will get released before term, that soon they will be reunited and they will be able to get on with their lives. She talked about being alone, and having to deal with her family life, plus supporting the distressful situation they are facing. She didn’t talk about being alone though. All her decisions, all her everyday life situations are talked over with her husband, as they are keeping the family together, not matter what.  He has been wrongfully condemned, and he is in prison, waiting for his name to be cleared out, but in the mean time she is not just waiting, she is working on their future, being a role model to her daughter and a good loving wife and friend.

She has time to work in the IRP6 case, meet with the rest of the wives, visit and support her husband, support and run her household, while going full time to school. She trusts in herself and her husband, but most of all in God. I think that the key to her positive attitude resides in the knowledge that everything will be ok, that while she is busy working on her future, her friends, and God Himself are doing the work so everything clears out. She is a trusting, hardworking woman; she is somebody to look up to. We asked her how she dealt with her everyday life and with her husband’s absence, and her answer was concise. She keeps busy, positive and trusting her believes. She is strong and steady, loyal and very proud of her family. She is the wife that every man in trouble owe to have.

Next week we will have one more testimony from this case. Tasha Harper, Demetrius Harper’s wife will join us to tell us about her tribulations regarding her children, as they grow up without a father at home, being the only parent to give them direct support.

Left Behind

Last week we talked with Ethel, a fiery woman that is fighting for a cause that she truly believes in. Her 0419131209achurch’s family has been hurt and she will not stand for it.

She told us about six men of her close acquaintance that are imprisoned right now with a very weak accusation and sentencing. She is convinced that they are innocent and she has set out to prove the system wrong We find that it is not an isolated case, and that the trend of over-criminalization that is occurring in the United States is taking our rights away, and  may be taking over all of our lives; not just the lives of this people that have been convicted, but anybody’s, as there are more and more cases of abuse of power, and corruption in the judiciary process.

All this is terrible and we were very proud to be able to give Ethel a hand on her denouncing of the case. But we couldn’t leave it at that. We found out about the wives, the women that stay behind and keep the family together, as best they can, and how hardship, on top of shame, have been brought to their lives.

What happens when you are left alone to fend for yourself with children and all the acquired obligations, but no help at all? These men have been imprisoned, they have lost their rights, and their family has lost their rights also. They have lost the right to have a loving husband and father, the right to feel safe in their own home, and the right to stand proud in the eyes of many people. Shame and disgrace goes a long ways. Once your reputation has been tainted it is really hard to go back. Many wrongs will stay wrong, as society will always see convicts as convicts, no matter if they have been exonerated. Your family and friends will never condemn them; society will never again forgive them. Regardless of the verdict, once behind bars, they are a tainted person for all, them and their families will suffer the consequences for as long as they live. It is a personal loss for all of them, and it is also financial and emotional hardship, it is public shame and disgrace; it is too hard of a burden to be explained by words.

We had to give these women a voice. And we are doing just that. This week we will have a great woman, one of these men’s wives, to tell us about what it is like to be left behind, not by your husband, not by neglect, but by the very same system that is supposed to protect you, to keep you from harm

Please join us Tuesday Sept 10th at 8 PM PST to talk about being left behind and help us welcome Esther Banks who will talk to us about her experience, giving us her testimony http://www.blogtalkradio.com/captivating-chats/2013/09/11/left-behind