Good Parents No Matter what

What an amazing show! It was emotional and intense; we were all in tears with Tasha’s story. She is a greatgrilgraffiti example of courage and will, dealing with her everyday life as well as she can, normalizing her children’s life to the best of her ability; drawing courage from her pain, and valor from her tears. She told us the children’s story, how they are affected by the events, and how it is harder for them as they are totally aware that this is an injustice; at least Kayla. Braylon just knows that he misses his dad, that it is not right that he doesn’t get to go home with them at night, courageous little man, in his innocence he was willing to smuggle his father out of prison under the blanket that he brought specially for that.

The pain has to be wearing, daunting, but the love prevails. This woman was able to convey her hope and her caring, the deep rooted believe that God will allow and help them get together again; because she feels that it is right, because she feels that they are right; they are good people, working for the future of their children, under the benevolent sight of God and with the support of their church.

Tasha told us about Kayla’s health, issues that appear due to the stress of her father’s imprisonment, and her support group. How the teachers and some of her classmates are helping make this more bearable, how the institution is being supporting as well. Within their sorrow they are blessed. The community is behind them, giving them courage; that tells me right there they are speaking the truth. They are not having anyone around them making them feel that this is due punishment, that their Demetrius should be in prison. The whole community is appalled and praying for his release, supporting the family, offering relief.

Life is going on for Tasha, and although she misses her husband she keeps going on. The children miss their father also; she does her best to fill the emptiness that he has left behind. She normalizes their children’s life by taking them places, by minimizing the difference on their life style. But it is hard; he is not there, he can’t go home at night. The whole family is dependent on Demetrius, they love him, they cherish and respect him, and Tasha has found ways to make him a part of the children’s life. Even though he is not at home physically, he is there in spirit and care, he is participant of this Kayla and Braylon’s life, making decisions on their future, counseling them and keeping the team that he started with Tasha the day they got married.

They all go see Demetrius, but life is not the same; there is little spontaneity when your time with your dad is supervised, when you only get to see him once a week. But they make the best out of it, and grandpa takes the kids of Friday, so they can have special time with their dad. They are a team, they support each other, and they are all an example of what we should all do when disgrace strike, how we should treat one another when life is not looking up, but looking down at our sad shadow.

Life has changed a lot for this family, they are all feeling the loss and the pain, but they have hope and they have faith. They are teaching us a lesson in courage, and I truly believe that they will get their life back, that they will be reunited and happy. They work real hard to make it happen, they have a just cause; it is only right, it is only fair.

Once again I would like to share the video done by the children, I believe that their words illustrate better than anything else what is going on here. How much people are hurting due to an injustice, how these children are facing unbearable pain due to a mistake.  Through their words we see that they are well guided and taught that love prevails, we see the effort that they all make to forget and forgive, to believe that this nightmare will end one day.

https://www.youtube.com/watch/?v=M9AVrCSQK3I

I am hoping that you will take a few minutes and watch it, it is a true testimony of courage and hope, showing young souls at their best, beautiful children brought to sorrow by a system that should be teaching them justice.

Next week we will welcome Tesia Barnes, talking to us in depth about what is happening to their families, how their lives have been affected and how they live the change

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Enriching and Getting Enriched

We had our second show, and it is getting very exciting.  Our numbers are getting higher. We are

Looking beautiful in a harsh world

Looking beautiful in a harsh world

getting an audience and we had a caller, although we could not talk to the person, as there was no sound. Maybe they had their phone on mute. But never the less it was an exciting moment and it made a difference. We want all of you to call and participate, we want to hear what you have to say, what your opinions are, and what topics you would like to hear us talk about with you.

Catherine and I had fun, like always that we get together. We are so different and I think that that is one of the reasons why we click. We can learn so much from each other. Catherine likes to color coordinate and accessorize, I am your casual woman, dressed up when needed, but comfortable in jeans and shirts. She loves her make up and nails done, I wear a washed faced with natural oils to moisturize; but in our own ways we are both feminine, we look at the world from the eyes of woman, and we are both very driven and ambitions in our goals, still in a very feminine way.

We came to different conclusions about what we feel what being feminine is, but somehow we have come around and seen the other’s point of view. This show definitely gave me some pointers one how to be more organized and efficient in my life.

We finally got to the conclusion that being empathic makes our job a little bit harder and the lives of others around us a little bit easier in this masculine ridden world.

It is a lot healthier and fulfilling to us women to be in tune with our vibration, in touch with our instinct.  If we are willing to make a compromise, if we make the effort to be true to ourselves, we will have the power to change the world, one of us at the time.

The world is going through a lot of changes, and I believe that femininity is getting past due recognition. There are more men and woman recognizing the power of female, the energy of nurture. Take a leap and explore your inner self, it is time to take control of who we are.

If you didn’t get a chance to listen to our show, please feel free to go back and listen to the archive of the show:

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/captivating-chats/2013/07/17/what-does-being-feminine-mean-to-you

 

Next coming show, scheduled for Tuesday July 19, 2013, we will be talking about picking up the pieces after a fall, getting up and getting going. We hope you join us and celebrate your femininity by taking action and making a conscious effort to change your little corner of the world.

On Being Feminine

We all want to be feminine, but are we? 1017522_481324855288917_209918415_n

As little girls we liked dolls, an indication that we are maternal, and pink bows and to look pretty so we can be admired and told that we are nice and wonderful. Girls just like to be sweet and soft, we like to be nice.  We are vulnerable and we like to be taken care of. We like our man, whether it is father, boyfriend or husband to be ready and help us, we like to give love and nurture, and most of all we like to care and empathize.

But what does it mean to be feminine?

I today’s society it isn’t very easy to be feminine. We are brought up to like all feminine things. We are told that we are sugar and spice and everything nice, but we live in a go-getter masculine world. By the time we reach sexual maturity we are all confused. We have been told that caring is for losers, that if we don’t get up and go, we will never make it. We are told that we need a man to take care of us, but we find ourselves competing with men. There are too many contradictions I think, and I also think that we can change that.

I believe that being feminine is actually caring, nurturing and empathic, that we can, and actually should, treat the world in a loving, and sweet manner. We don’t need to be forceful and aggressive. We have our ways.

When a woman loses her compassion, she loses herself. We can be sweet and assertive, and we should.

We evolved to wait in the “cave” making a home while man went out to hunt the bison and mammoth to feed the family. We are to stay around and do our work, light the fire, gather seeds and wait for man to bring us the meat. And I think that here is where the problem lays. We are to let man do their work, not tell them what to do. We are to do our work, not expect man to tell us what to do. But most of all, we don’t have to accept what man, or society for that matter, gives to us. When we stay in our cave we are not waiting for the man, we are making our life. We are not dependent on them, as we know how to gather seeds and roots, and we learn how to sow and harvest. We can take care of ourselves. We can take care of our lives and the lives of others; we can create a home, where there is fire for warmth and safe shelter, so why should we go by the rules of others, by imposed preconceptions of what our lives should be. We are not to accept everything that is given to us. We are to choose if we want what we are offered.

Why do we expect men to ask us to marry them, get on their knees and tell us that they will bring us the world and then we don’t let them? Why do we try to fill masculine roles in society that drive our nature berserk?  By trying to fulfill a role that is not ours we are getting shortchanged and actually very damaged, both emotionally and spiritually.

Don’t get me wrong. I don’t believe that women today should stay home and wait for her man to bring home the bacon. I believe that we are plenty capable of bringing it home ourselves, and cook it and clean after ourselves. I believe the by going back to our sweet ways, our compassionate ways, and by allowing time, thinking things through, and slowing down our pace, just like our foremothers did, we will be more in synchronicity with our true nature and we will be able to have and independent and fulfilling role in society. I believe that we can be feminine and strong, that we can be nurturing and successful and that we should be women first and foremost in everything that we do, because it is in our nature and that way we will be most successful in our lives and we will be able to contribute to this world that is forgetting what a helping hand is, and what home really means.

Please Join Catherine and me Tuesday July 16th at a8 PM Pacific Time for our new show, we will love to hear your opinions and concerns http://www.blogtalkradio.com/captivating-chats/2013/07/17/what-does-being-feminine-mean-to-you

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